The path for women in computer science can be challenging. But we also have more power than we think to make choices, where even small actions and simple choices can have a big impact. We can do this for ourselves by defining and owning our own paths, becoming more aware of our strengths and the red thread that gives coherence and meaning to our work. We can also do this collectively, recognizing that all our efforts build on work with and by a huge number of colleagues, and learning to become a super colleague, not a super chicken, and choosing kinder, more compassionate, and more solution-focussed ways of engaging.